5 Tips for Communicating with Your Doctor In Pregnancy
How to Collaborate with Care Providers about Pregnancy and Childbirth
It’s no secret that pregnant women have questions about pregnancy. Sites like Baby Center and Pregnancy Week by Week are very popular, as well as the gold standard on any mother-to-be’s coffee table: What to Expect When You’re Expecting. Aside from these wonderful resources, you may be wondering how to utilize your most trusted resource, your doctor! Here are some tips for communicating with your doctor in pregnancy.
- Choose a Care Provider who shares your goals. Maybe this means choosing between an Obstetrician, Midwife or Family Physician. Or, this may mean finding a professional who is supporting of your goal of a natural birth, vaginal birth after cesarean (VBAC). What are your goals? We love this guide from Kim James, called the Groopman Spectrums that can help you figure out exactly what your philosophies are regarding medical preferences, and here’s a video that walks you through it.
- Ask for help! Your Care Provider wants to know you trust him or her. Asking your doctor or midwife for help in making decisions will go a long way toward building a bridge for collaborative communication and working together to reach your goals.
- Use non-combative language. Your Care Provider is concerned for the safety of you and your baby and it’s highly unlikely he or she wants anything bad to happen to you! Your doctor is not your enemy, so using phrases like, “we prefer,” “we are hoping it’s possible to,” “Is there any reason we can’t,” “How can we work together to achieve…”
- Listen and clarify! Your Care Provider has completed years of medical training and has substantial experience. Respectfully listening to his or her advice and reasoning goes a long way. Then, be sure to clarify information with reflective listening and asking questions if there is anything you don’t understand.
- Use your B.R.A.I.N. to make decisions that are right for you. We love the acronym “B.R.A.I.N.” for decision making. This will help you remember to ask about:
- Benefits – What are the benefits of this procedure or option?
- Risks – What are the risks of this procedure or option?
- Alternatives – Are there alternatives to the treatment suggested?
- Intuition – What does my gut tell me is right for me?
- Nothing – What happens if we do nothing?
Your Sacramento Doula can help you collaborate with your trusted Care Provider.
At Taylor Made Doulas, we are focused on collaborative care with doctors and midwives throughout the greater Sacramento Area and have great relationships with Sacramento Hospitals. It is our goal to help you make the decisions that are right for you in pregnancy, childbirth and postpartum. Contact us today to set up a complimentary consultation where we can discuss your needs and help you get the most out of your relationship with your trusted medical providers.